Hi, I’m Rachel Shumway
And welcome to my world
where you get to break the past stories. and be whoever you want to be.
Do you want an unrealistically amazing life?
Do you set goals for yourself?
Do you have a track record of achieving your goals?
According to Harvard Business review, people who write down their goals are over 80% more likely to achieve them.
If this is not you yet, don’t worry. I got you 🙂
And I get it. Making a huge goal for yourself can feel scary at times.
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A 12 Step Framework to get you from just getting by, to a space where it is safe to dream again. With a little fear, and a grit to defy all odds. And a simple framework to help you break down your goals into measureable chunks.
badasses have doubts. and fears. and days where they question their worth. even freaking wonderwoman had her moments.
they also take the time to make strategies for their obstacles and recommit to keep their motivation high.
Set and Acheive Huge Goals. Badassery Skill 11/12. THE SECRET TO DITCHING MEDIOCRITY FOREVER
Here is the key: If you want an unrealistically amazing life, you have to set unrealistic goals. Impossible, badass, soul-stretching goals. And then rely on your committment and determination to get you through as you figure it out. The way I teach/advocate for goal setting means you set goals for the evolution. For who you become as you go along. In this post, you’ll learn what a badass goal is, how to set some, and a breakdown of the Badassery Goals Framework. This includes info on failure, planning and how to keep it simple. Though this post is going out in May, way after new years resolution time has passed, i find it particularly relevant to keep motivation and inspiration high, so that you can set goals and achieve them. the follow through is key here.
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Heya! Im Rachel Shumway, creator of The Badass Academy. I am a self-proclaimed badass.
And… also a human. Which means I have days when my inner child is beaten down, and I feel like I am the only person in the world who has not found her way yet.
I don’t believe Im a badass IN SPITE of those things, I know I am a badass because of them.
Life is a forging chamber.
It is meant to have moments of total ecstasy, joy, play, excitement, peace and power.
And wholehearted living means that the whole human experience also contains moments of grief, loss, depression, pain, discomfort and vulnerability.
A badass says yes to all of it.
And it is the most rewarding journey I have ever placed myself on.
The International women who walk beside me on this journey can attest to the power of truth rising within spirit to cut through the bullshit that transpires in this world.
We are far from perfect. And that is a beautiful thing.
Before jumping into skill 11, Set and Achieve Badass Goals, its important to get some context of this skill, and the framework I created for it. The Badassery framework is a set of 12 skills that you can develop one by one to evolve into the highest version of yourself. This post is about Badassery Skill 3, create, redirect and feel emotions. Each of the 3 pillars are supported 4 skills,or components as I like to call them. So if you feel a weakness in any of the three pillars, you can look deeper to see what strategy to impliment.
Pillar 1- Choosing the Vulnerability and Discomfort of Growth
Skill 1 God-Spirit trust and connection
Skill 2 Mind-body trust and connection
Skill 3 Create, feel, visualize and redirect emotion
Skill 4 Embrace Uncertainty and Discomfort
Pillar 2: Live Authentically
Skill 5 Self-Acceptance
Skill 6 Clarity of Purpose in Life
Skill 7 Confidence in Building and Maintaining Relationships
Skill 8 Assertive Communication
Pillar 3- SET BADASS GOALS
Badass Goals and Having an Unrealistically Amazing Life
BADASSES FAIL OFTEN.
What are Your Limits?
When you look at your previous New Years Resolutions, how are you faring? What is the challenge you are facing now?
Here is the thing. If you have lowered your goal, you have lowered your limit and therefore lowered your motivation. If you decided to set a goal that feels safe, reachable and comfortable, then you have automatically lowered your motivation for it.
Thats right. by you lowering your goal, you lowered your motivation. Because the amount of energy required to get moving is the same, whether it be for a huge goal of a tiny one. When you lower the bar to stay closer to your comfort zone, you are in essence saying that you will give up because you think you cannot do it.
But how do you know what your limits are if you don’t push them? Badassery skill 11/12 is setting unrealistic goals, for the sake of seeing what you can achieve.
Or you might be thinking… Why would I set a goal I know I cannot acheive? Isnt that setting myself up for failure and disappointment? Why not just set milestone baby steps one at a time?
You’re going to want to grab the 12 Steps to Badassery Training. I break down exactly how to apply high performance skills to this badass goal, so that instead of feeling like crap when you don’t reach the goal, you learn every step of the way. You see the evolutionary process right before your eyes.
The Value of Committment
What is your mountain today? And what are your limits?
What are your mountains... continued
The 4 Step Process of Badass Goal Setting.
Step 1: Set a goal. A huge one. One that makes you want to throw up.
Example: I want to lose the last 15 pounds for the last time. This will be done by June 30 2021 (8 weeks from now.) the measureable result is that the scale will read 130 Lbs, which is 15 lbs lower than my current weight of 145 lbs.
Step 2: Watch your brain tell you all the reasons it is impossible. Rely on it, count on it, thank your brain for it. Because every single one of these reasons is an obstacle. And isnt it so much better to go into a mountain climbing trip knowing what obstacles will be coming up ahead, so you can prepare for them?
Jack Canfield in his book “Pathfinders” calls these thoughts Yeahbuts.
Yeahbut Ill have cravings. Ive never done it before. I always give up. I always lose heart. I am in quaruntine. Its normal to put on stress weight. Winter just passed. My boyfriend brings pizza home every day. I have a history of eating when I am overwhelmed. Healthy food is too expensive/inconvenient. I don’t have time to cook. These are just random mumbo jumbo from the lower brain. Brain farts as I refer to in my Badass Goal Setting Course.
Step 3: Plan for the obstacles. How can you face them? Do you need to learn something? Do you need to practice feeling more fear? (more on feeling emotions in this post)
You have your list of yeahbuts. Now turn them into so whats.
Ill have cravings. So what? I will learn the skill of allowing an urge without eating (as talked about in my Eat like a Badass 30 day challenge.)
I always give up. So what? Obviously that is not true because if you had given up you would not be reading this blog post. You would not have put in the effort to learn how to grow your skillset to lose the weight. And so what if you had missteps in the past? That literally has no bearings on your future performance.
Every single time you try again is a new try. You can let go of those old stories.
My boyfriend brings home pizza every day. So what?
I can ask him to eat it at the store. If he does not, I can make sure I have my own food prepped.
I can practice allowing more urges. I can remember that his choices and my choices do not have to be the same.
I can be an example to him.
I can remove myself from the pizza situation and strengthen my ability to be around food that normally makes me want to overeat.
You get the gist?
Are you stuck?
1: Grab my free Badassery Checklist. When you are setting and achieving your goal, you can use any of the badassery skills to help you. And doing this process every day helps you feel immediately more confident and empowered.
2: Learn more about creating your own pep talk and affirmations in the 12 steps to badassery course. Not only do I break down the badassery framework in depth, but there are loads of goodies and bonuses to help you really believe new things in a way that is fun and powerful.
3: send a message over to firstname.lastname@example.org and tell me: what do you think you need to change in order to feel like enough? Ill see if we can create a new personalized affirmation for ya😉
The 4 Steps Continued
(An alternative to SMART goals)
Step 4: Gear up. And remember the 3 components of badassery.
1: Embrace vulnerability (hello big goal. Have you noticed how vulnerability and fear of failure pop up when you set a big goal?)
Trying again is hard. My brain does not like this change, and I know I am going to have to give up some things, and that process might be painful but this is important to me. I might fail but I will never give up.
2: Live authentically. This goal is YOURS. It is the desire of your heart. And you do not have to explain your goal to anyone. You do not have to discount it or tune it down. You can choose to tell the world or tell nobody. But ask yourself- WHY do I want this? Tap into that…. and your badass goal will become even more clear.
I want to look good in a bikini. Or I want to be an example for my kids. Or I want to feel vibrant and healthy. Or my doctor reccomended I need to lose this weight. Or If I can do this, nothing else in the world is impossible.
You find YOUR why. It does not matter if it is grand or “noble” or serviceable for others. The reason is YOURS. If you like it, you are under no obligation to justify that to anyone.
3: Play big. Don’t settle. When you are embracing vulnerability and doing it from a place that feels good and true to who you are, you CAN and WILL desire to dream bigger. Because you will be willing to feel afraid. To fail. To risk it all.
Just like carrots can’t grow without carrot seeds being planted, our emotions are the seeds for our actions.
And our thoughts are the quality of the soil we plant them in.
So how do you change from feeling bleh to YEAH at any given time?
Well when farmers farm, they don’t just throw seeds in the ground right？they plan what goes where. They till the soil. They sow the seeds and nurture it till they can harvest the fruit of their labor.
We can do the same thing. Tend to the weeds by noticing thoughts that don’t serve us, painful stories that make us react in a way we dont like.
Take the time to Check in on your mental state. Ask yourself if you are playing small? Are you giving into your yeahbuts or planning for ways to overcome them?
Process whatever feelings might be there. Your fears are allowed to be there. Go into your body with a simple body scan Is there tension anywhere? Heat or coolness? Lightness or heaviness? Pressure or movement?
Feel the fear. And then take massive action.
A badass emotional life- achieving and learning from failures is an intentional two way street. You monitoring the fields, noticing the weeds of negative thoughts and pulling them out. watering the plants with words of affirmation, powerful pep talks and gratitude.
And its planting good seeds. If you know you don’t want to eat anger for breakfast tomorrow, you’ve got to plant stories of patience. If you decide you want to feel motivated, you have to create a fertile ground for your desires to take root. It’s not a magical emotion that simply falls on you.
The good thing is that epic self care, clear communication, self love, achieving goals, feeling better, eating healthier, not binge eating, getting enough sleep, embracing failure, feeling worthy and Confidence, making friends easier… Whatever result we want can all benefit from the skill of FEELING ON PURPOSE. and that’s what you will learn in the 12 Steps to Badassery Training. You can learn even more about that here.